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Sadism needs to be considered at two very different levels: as a factor in some forms of sexual violence and abuse, and as a component of ritualized sadomasochism, which is a consensual pattern of sexual interaction. Groups bdsm sexual violence ranges from sexual assault or rape, in which the rapist is motivated by the desire to dominate his victim, to sadistic sexual murder. In its least serious forms this can be seen as a distorted manifestation of male dominance in sexual interactions. The most serious forms include some of the most ghastly crimes inflicted by one person on another; some graphic examples are provided by Hucker These aspects of sadistic violence are considered further in Chapter Mutually consenting BDSM, particularly between gay males, may be regarded as illegal, shown clearly by the Spanner case in the UK in the late s when police discovered video recordings of the activities of a gay sadomasochistic sex club.

Several of those involved, including some who had been the masochistic recipients, were sentenced to imprisonment for up to 4 years Green It is therefore not surprising that those in the BDSM world are often very reluctant to reveal information about their behaviours or to allow researchers to observe them. A of studies of the ritualized forms of sado-masochism have nevertheless been published and were reviewed by Weinberg Most of this research has involved members of BDSM organizations.

These organizations tend to vary in what type of rituals they emphasize, but they typically involve patterns of dominance and submission, often with bondage, when the submissive partner is tied up or constrained and is, in a ritualized manner, at the mercy of the dominant partner, and the infliction of controlled amounts of pain e. In this respect there is some overlap with fetishism. In contrast, straight BDSM males tend to be more interested in humiliation. An important aspect of the BDSM culture is the strict setting of rules and limits, which allow the participants to enjoy the BDSM experience without fear that it might go too far, and which include, for example, a prohibition of inebriation.

Interestingly, in many BDSM groups, coitus or genital groups bdsm to induce orgasm is unusual Moser Although evidence of the prevalence and developmental histories of sado-masochists is limited, they are somewhat more likely to be males. The age at which they became aware of their BDSM interests has been reported as between 18 and 20 by Sandnabba et alwhereas in Breslow et al's study, half had become aware by age This is a groups bdsm developmental issue, which requires more research.

The evidence for females shows a more consistently later awareness, often introduced by a partner Hucker In general, BDSM rituals tend to be unacceptable to the sadomasochist's partner or spouse, resulting in the importance of clubs where the like-minded have opportunities to enjoy their sadomasochistic preferences with each other, and an increased likelihood of BDSM men and women being single or divorced. Groups bdsm yet we understand little about the factors that lead to the development of sado-masochistic preferences.

There is an important distinction between fantasy and reality. The use of fantasies of being raped or being forced into sexual activity by women during masturbation or intercourse is far from unusual Wilsonalthough few if any such women would enjoy such experiences in reality. However, some of them might learn to enjoy a ritualized version in which they know they are not going to be seriously hurt or be unable to stop when they want to. Fantasies of being sexually dominated may be used by young males early in their sexual development.

For both females and males, particularly those who have grown up associating sexual pleasure with guilt, the arousing effect of being dominated may derive from a sense that one cannot be blamed for the experience. However, this is largely speculation. Weinbergin his review, concluded that BDSM is predominantly about dominance and submission and not necessarily about pain.

However, pain is commonly involved to some degree.

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Whether or not masochistic individuals seek pain, it is obvious that they can experience sexual arousal in the presence of pain. Moser gave a vivid of his first experience of visiting a BDSM club as an observer. In Chapter 4we considered the paradoxical association between negative mood and sexual arousal that is evident in a minority of men and women.

Perhaps moderate pain during sexual arousal may augment the arousal in some individuals. The commonest form of this is the love bite. This phenomenon is widespread amongst mammals. Much of the research reviewed by Weinberg has had a sociological or social psychological perspective, and has emphasized the impact of the BDSM culture in shaping the various rituals. However, we are left with fundamental but unanswered questions about why a minority of men and women develop sado-masochistic interests in the first place, leading them to identify with the BDSM culture. Although these questions include the importance of dominance and submission, and the impact of pain on sexual response, there is the further complication of the extent to which the sadistic and masochistic patterns groups bdsm response can occur in the same individual.

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A closer examination of the sexual development of BDSM individuals is required. Although my job in this chapter does not rely on a particular approach or theoretical school of psychotherapy, it is useful to have at least a thumbnail portrait of my general approach to psychotherapy and in particular my views about sexual orientation and gender.

My techniques are easier to describe than my theoretical views. I am often directive, I give a lot of feedback, and I tend to be self-disclosing unless contraindicated. Unlike Silverstein, I would have done more talking in the session and probably made many more supportive, warm fuzzy statements—in other words, I groups bdsm have been more motherly, because as a therapist that is often groups bdsm of my persona. Indeed, I sometimes think of the therapeutic relationship, especially for younger clients like Scott, as a very specialized form of relationship, part parent—child, part objective, nonjudgmental observer, some mentor—mentee, and coaching at times.

My techniques are varied and eclectic, and I will mention specific techniques as they become relevant to this case. I am deliberately atheoretical, even antitheoretical when it comes to psychotherapeutic frameworks. A theoretical orientation is perhaps helpful because, among other things, it aids in organizing and simplifying data.

In truly scientific endeavor, theories are testable and rejected if the data does not support the theory. But in psychology, which deals with complex human behaviors, it is not groups bdsm easy to test a specific. Even when there is data, it is subject to widely differing interpretations.

I am an avid follower of neuroscience research and that has influenced me to see most client problems as a result of a mix of biological and psychosocial factors. My personal experiences lead me to view clients very much in the context of their cultural upbringing and the generation in which they have grown up. This, of course, informs my perspective.

For example, we see in nonhuman mammals that sex is used for strengthening affiliation bonds, exercising power, and establishing hierarchies in groups, for fun, play, and so on. If this is true, the major assumption that underlies the pathologizing of sexual outliers is wrong. If the functions of sex are diverse, so should be sexual behavior and sexual orientation. It also follows that, as Morin theorizes, the drivers of sex will not just be warm and gentle, like love and connection, or even the quest for the genetic perfection, but multiple drives, some dark and dangerous, like transgression and dominance.

Against the backdrop of biological influenced variations of sexuality along many dimensions, culture shapes the expression of sexuality. I consider most of contemporary research on sexual orientation and gender identity to be fatally flawed. Most researchers are blind to the biases they bring to the table simply in accepting the idea that the goal of sex in mammals is reproduction.

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In terms of my therapeutic approach, what this means is that when I try to understand my clients, I not only look in terms of symptoms, biological predispositions, family, and peer influences, but also in the context of cultural and subcultural pressures. I look very hard at the role of gender, both biologically and culturally, and also at sexual orientation. I try to look at historical trends as well as the past to predict what kind of world my clients, if they are young, will be living in. For example, I almost never find a young person needing extensive work to accept her or his gayness, a type of client that was common when I started in the early s.

And I think we see far fewer of those clients—the ones with horrible internalized homophobia—because their s have decreased in response to cultural shifts toward acceptance of gays. Many clients, perhaps especially members of sexual minorities, feel they can achieve the understanding they need only from someone who shares their sexual orientation.

This is a powerful reason to self-disclose what might otherwise be regarded as highly personal information. My first exposures to psychotherapy predisposed me to self-disclosure for other reasons. As a teen in the s, I developed an addiction problem. First, I sought treatment from traditional psychotherapists. I was not helped at all, largely, in my view, because of what I saw as the detached, silent demeanor of these classically, analytically trained therapists. InI entered graduate school in clinical psychology deeply skeptical of my new profession.

Much of my skepticism, if not my in-your-face militancy, remain today. I have already revealed some, my own earliest experiences with treatment and with being a counselor. In addition, I have lived an atypical sexual lifestyle, especially for a woman. I can relate to more than one of the sexual minorities with whom I work. One other event in my life affects my view of Scott and particularly my emotional response to his situation. My son was then 20 years old and extremely affected by the death of his sister, to whom he felt closely bonded.

So I am a mother who lost and watched the sibling go through a very difficult and complicated grieving process. I have a deeper groups bdsm average, groups bdsm more visceral, knowledge of this kind of grief. Indeed, my practice now includes a of bereaved parents and siblings; for example, two young men who lost siblings are in my practice now. This gives me a very special understanding, on one hand, but perhaps makes me less objective, on the other. My life has been unconventional. I have lived and practiced for decades in a community where diversity is truly celebrated and where ideas considered so radical as to be preposterous by the mainstream are seriously debated, like the need for the death of the two-gender binary, for example, or whether sexual orientation is fluid or stable over time.

That informs groups bdsm assessments and methods in many ways.

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