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Is this okay?

Am I okay? As if that were the key to it all. As his body drifts undiscovered in the ocean, the narrator finds herself unmoored, undertaking a private search to find solid ground. Even in seemingly demarcated relationships—like the one between BDSM dom and sub Orly and Piggy—there is something unstable and messy that permeates erotic encounters.

What, according to you, is this something? Saskia Vogel: Oh my. But the narrator, Echo, often appears to seek being shaped—and I totally see her point too. That erotic bdsm went through a of drafts, but I really needed to get it right. It roots the book for me in an exploration of power, patriarchy and the ever-shifting concept of womanhood. Her idea of the gaze became part of my inquiry in Permission, and also helped me make sense of my own experiences. I remember how confusing it was to suddenly have breasts as a young teen. They brought a different kind of attention that I had no interest in or use for, but also the awareness that something was wanted of me.

This fact impacted how I dressed and behaved, it required me to navigate the world differently. How people see us does indeed impact how we take shape as people. RKP: Piggy is a middle-aged man who has lived most of his life terribly lonely, afraid of his own desires. It made him feel uncomfortable and ashamed, but at least…there was somewhere he fit in. What does it mean for Piggy to have access only to that first set of words; what does it mean for all of us?

Imagine if we were all able to give our sexual selves the same consideration we give our sartorial, dietary, or career choices? But the woman herself only started to understand that her sexual life had a wider context when she read 50 Shades of Grey. I assumed that she was at least aware of an alternative erotic community because of the people they were bringing into their marital bed. We are living in a time where lexicons of desire and countless communities are at our fingertips…but also not.

One might not think to go looking for them, not know how, not want to, not feel that we belong there — there are a million reasons why not. He knows he erotic bdsm be shamed for his desires or thought aberrant. Nobody wants to feel that way. What I would like this to mean for all of us is an increase in compassion and understanding, and a willingness to embrace the complexities of our beings — a thinking of desire as part of us and our everyday lives, rather than something separate or as an aside.

Imagine erotic bdsm we were all able to give our sexual selves the same consideration we give our sartorial, dietary, or career choices, you know? RKP: You develop a really great interplay between stillness and erotic bdsm in the narrative.

For example, during play sessions, the hovering of a hand or the beating of a heart feel deeply charged with motion. A reflex parallel to inaction. This scene was so hard for me to read, because it felt intimately familiar. And I think it might for other women too: that experience where doing something sexual feels less like action than resisting what you are expected to do. What makes erotic bdsm forms of erotic stillness seem charged and other moments of erotic action seem dead?

For instance, the calculations one might make when in a situation like that: am I more at risk staying and just letting it happen, or might I face violence or other unwanted experiences if I decide to say no and end this right now? But to answer your question, sometimes that good, charged stillness is about being in a certain hepace.

Yes, consent is part of it. Respect is also part of it. I think Echo might have imagined that her and Van were meeting somewhat eye-to-eye, because each of them were at the dinner table with their own set of assets. But then the blowjob is such an act of dominance that I think Echo feels like the balance of power has unexpectedly shifted. The rug gets pulled out from under her. And suddenly she knows, but also does not know, where she stands.

Is the erotic a lifeboat for Echo because it mirrors grief in this way, allowing for a nonrational path towards joy? What shape would their lives take on then? And in terms of the erotic and grief, I wanted to explore with BDSM in particular, the uses of the erotic beyond just pleasure.

The meditative states that can be accessed, what happens when we move beyond the intellectual, the verbal. What we can access through sensation. RKP: Permission can be read as a book about sex, but for me, it was ultimately a book about care: about seeking the care we need, no matter how strange and unlikely its form. Can it? And how sometimes they way a person offers us love might not feel like love to us.

We might not be able to see it, and vice versa. For instance, the dad expresses his love through labor — providing for the family — and the mom has a hard time seeing that as an expression of love.

She wants him to be more present in the home. Opening yourself up to seeing and understanding different forms of loving can be redemptive, I think.

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